Using Random.org, Abeni’s twistout pictures were chosen! The rest of you ladies will be posted tomorrow, thanks so much for entering!
Congrats, girl! Send me your info to kcurly@newlynatural.com and I’ll get your prize out to you next week!
Hello my name is Abeni (kinkyhairedlady.blogspot.com) and here are a couple of pics of my best twist out. The twist out is my staple product come rain or sunshine. I just love the big-ness of it and how overwhelming it can be to others.
Abeni
Abeni
From this link. It’s so sweet!


Couple Maintains World Record for Longest Marriage
After 85 years, husband and wife say there’s no secret to their longevity
In a day when marriages begin and end with the greatest of ease, Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher are a rarity. The James City, N.C., husband and wife have been wed 85 years and hold the Guinness World Record for the longest marriage of a living couple.
Banners and signs celebrating that record decorate the front lawn of their ranch-style home. They’ve captured the attention of newspapers, magazines and websites everywhere. And just recently, they received a signed commendation from President Obama with a promise of an official invitation to the White House to meet him.
The hoopla over their accomplishment doesn’t faze them at all. Zelmyra, 101, scorns the idea that there’s some secret to the longevity of their marriage. “No secrets,” she says. “There isn’t any secret. It was only God that kept us together.”
Herbert, 104, is amazed at their longevity. “I didn’t know I would be married this long,” he says. The retired Coca-Cola Bottling Co. mechanic still has a sharp mind, though his hearing is failing. Revered as a hard-working husband and father, Herbert built the family home in 1942, and he and his wife still reside there. His diligence and aggressive saving paid for the college educations of the couple’s five children. They also have 10 grandchildren, nine great-grandchildren and four great-great grandchildren.
Their granddaughter Iris Godette is responsible for arranging the Guinness recognition. In 2005, after seeing a TV news report about a couple married for 75 years, she was motivated to research how long her grandparents had been hitched. After poring over records at the county Register of Deeds, she found that they had been married for 81 years. But when she submitted an application to Guinness, another couple who had been married just a few months longer held the record. Godette resubmitted the application in 2008, and that year they officially became the world’s longest-married couple still living.
Besides family, God and the church have been ever-present in the Fishers’ lives. They have maintained memberships at separate houses of worship during their marriage. She belongs to Jones Chapel African Methodist Episcopal Zion Church; he’s a member of Pilgrim Chapel Missionary Baptist Church. Both are in James City, the close-knit community where they grew up together.
Despite separate church memberships, their hearts stay connected. Through the ups and downs of marriage, neither has ever considered divorce. Zelmyra adamantly opposes the idea of divorce and remarriage. “I didn’t know it would be as long as it is now,” she says of her 85 years with the same man. “I knew that I wouldn’t be looking for another husband.”
Zelmyra doesn’t attribute her long, vibrant life to healthy eating, exercise or costly nutritional supplements. Her efforts have been focused on her inner person and building relationships with others. “[You have to] know how to talk to people,” she says. “Try to treat everyone right.”
The centenarians have a loving understanding of each other and enjoy a simple life. They are fond of television news programs, and Herbert especially likes watching his favorite baseball team, the Atlanta Braves. They also take pleasure in sitting on their front porch to watch neighbors come and go and railroad trains whisk by.
“I think it is a blessing first that two people can ultimately love each other, respect each other and still want to be each other’s friend,” Godette says. “These days, you just don’t hear of a couple that stays together so long. They took those vows, ‘till death do us part,’ seriously. They have weathered the storms. There were good times and bad times, but they stuck it out.”
Those bad times include the lean years of the Great Depression when Herbert worked for as little as a nickel a day. They had to raise their own food and ration it for their young children. Perhaps those difficult years bonded and empowered them to remain married for so long.
“They cherish each other,” Godette continues. “If they had to be apart, their lives wouldn’t be as fruitful. … They are connected. They are soul mates.”
Hooray!
You may remember me talking about the addition of the lycra swim cap to my routine. Well, I’ve been swimming several times with it and also the swim band. Here are some realizations I’ve made:
The first time I went in the pool after receiving my new goodies, I just used the lycra cap and the swim band. I ordered the XL cap, so it fit my hair, but not very snugly. The swim band does help to keep the cap on.
Good news: The lycra cap does not slide off with the conditioner.
Bad news: OMG at the water I could feel swirling around my scalp! I did not realize how much a regular silicone or rubber swim cap does protect the hair. Even though some water does eventually seep inside, there is no constant onslaught of water.
Not so with the lycra! I know I was told this, but seeing is believing.
So, fast forward to the next time I went swimming. I soaked my twists with conditioner, applied my lycra cap, followed by a silicone cap and furthered secured with the swim band.
Now this is a winning combination! My caps stayed on, I couldn’t feel any water seeping in, and there was no need for a chin strap! I still looked goofy, but it worked!
Here’s me after my swim this morning. Excuse the poor quality, I took it with my camera phone.
Straight out of the pool! The blue item is the swim band, the yellow cap is just a regular silicone cap, underneath is the lycra cap.

Just a good shot of my twists after rinsing the conditioner out.
Yay! So happy to be done with chin straps!
The swim band (here’s the link to the site I ordered from) also helps keep my ear plugs in. I’m going to try this combo a few more times and then update my Swimming Routine page if it still proves to be a winner.
Company Name: Hamadi
Product Name: Shea Hair Cream
Ingredients: Purified Water (Aqua), Shea Butter* (Butyrospermum Parkii), Cetearyl Alcohol, Cetearyl Glucoside, Glyceryl Stearate, Candelilla (Euphorbia Cerifera) Wax, Glyceryl Laurate, Ceteareth 12, Glycerin (Vegetal), Dimethicone, Rice Amino Acids, Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride, Glycerin (Vegetal), Rosemary (Rosmarinus Officinalis) Extract, Panthenol, Sodium Hydroxide, Grapefruit Seed (Citrus Grandis) Extract, Tocopherol, Pyridoxine, Lemongrass (Cymbopogon Flexuosus) Oil, Potassium Sorbate, Palmarosa (Cymbopogon Martini) Oil*, Exotic Verbena (Litsea Citrata) Oil*, Beta Carotene, Lemon (Citrus Limonum) Oil.
Price: $38 8 oz
Consistency: Very thick
Scent: Mild
Purchase from: Hamadi Beauty, Hairrogant,
Review:
I was sent this to try out, just FYI
I’d never heard of this line before. Three things that jump right out at me: they seem to be a fancy pants line, they have great ingredients and they also are very expensive.
The consistency of this stuff made me think of a paste. I used it on my twists and it gave them a nice, soft hold. However, the sheen was a bit lacking. The moisture was so-so. I used a leave in under it, so I’d expected better. I had to remoisturize the next day with a spritz, which doesn’t usually happen for me when my hair is in twists.
Then I happened to re-read the ingredient list. How in the world did I miss that cone? That hasn’t happened to me in a long time. I think it’s because it was so far down the ingredient list. Which also may be why my hair didn’t feel completely crunchy as it usually does with cones. But the dryness was still there.
Anyway, I digress. Someone who is a cone lover may love this, but it just won’t be a repeat for me. Even if it didn’t have a cone, the price is just too much.
I stumbled upon this Etsy store a few weeks ago. We all love flower accessories, but these are so unique and beautiful, I just had to share.
Kanzashi Hair Comb
Flower Clip
Headband
Flower Bobby Pin
The name of this shop is Petal Mix. From the shop’s description:
Petal Mix hair accessories and brooch pins are a modern twist on the Japanese art of tsumami kanzashi. Each petal is hand cut and folded from beautiful silks, imported Japanese textiles, and other high quality fabrics.
The colors are so vibrant and there are a lot of different designs, all with a Japanese flavor! Something I also like about this shop is that you can customize your order.
Here’s my purchase:
I adorned my puff with this hair comb
They are a little bit more expensive than I care to pay for hair accessories normally (I think I paid 18 bucks for this one?) but when I find something really unique, I feel it’s worth it. The combs are a bit iffy. I was a worried that I wouldn’t be able to get it through my hair as they have pretty skinny spacing. However, it slid easily on the side of my puff and twist outs. It did not, and that’s a big NOT, slide into my hair when it was twisted.
These are fabric as well, so I’ve had to be careful when my hair is heavy with product. Shipping was very fast and it came in a pretty box with a ribbon around it. (Hey, presentation is everything, right?)
I’m thinking about getting another one, but I have to decide the color.
Thanks to the several ladies who gave me the heads up on this!
Calling all natural hair divas! Send ESSENCE a picture of your hair style and tell us what you love about your natural ‘do. We’re looking for real women rocking their hair natural: Ceasars, fades, twists, curls, locks, long or short–we want to see it! Please send three pictures and your contact info to streetstyle@essence.com today!
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(No comment on the model’s hair they used
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