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Jasmyn, it sounds like you’ve had quite an adventure reaching your current natural status. But you’re there and it looks fab on you! Congrats! To see more of Jasmyn, visit her blog or her fotki.

My name is Jasmyn. I’m a 20 year-old college student in Washington, DC. I’ve had a relaxer since I was 14.

Transitioning

Transition time

I transitioned for a year. I got my last relaxer early August 2009, and I did the BC August 9, 2010 (8/9/10, I picked the day on purpose!).

Your favorite products

The only product that I can say is my favorite is Herbal Essences Hello Hydration conditioner. During my transition, I used Suave Naturals Tropical Coconut conditioner. HEHH really blew my mind by how awesome it felt!

My current products are Shea Moisture’s Curl Enhancing Smoothie, Volumizing Conditioner, and Moisture Retention Shampoo. I also have unrefined shea butter, Cantu Leave-in, olive oil, Mane n Tail Deep Conditioning Conditioner. I made a vegetable glycerin mix (water, vegetable glycerin, tea tree oil, and sweet almond oil) and I do apple cider vinegar rinses, too.

Newly BC'd!

What you love most about your hair

I love that it’s pretty low maintenance. I was never good with wrapping my hair every night when I was relaxed. I still don’t like doing my hair every night, but flat twists are quicker and easier for me than wraps. I also love the length. It seems like it was made for my face. I’m glad I transitioned for a year!

The manner in which you BC’d

So, there’s a long and grueling process with how I decided to BC. While transitioning, I was obsessed with it, but I didn’t know how to do it. I was going to go to a natural hair salon I’ve never been to and tell them to do it. Then I was just going to go to a barber shop and have a guy do it (so many naturals actually recommended this process). However, I got lucky and the stylist that used to cut my relaxed hair also cut natural hair! And she was able to do so on a Monday (those who frequent salons know that nobody is open on a Monday)! So I would up going to my trusted stylist and having her do my BC. It was a great decision because she prepared me for what to expect and made the whole experience very comfortable, and I got free samples of Mixed Chicks too.

Natchal!!

Any opposition/problems you faced along the way

No oppositions at all. Everyone loved my hair! Problems? Plenty. Tangling relaxed ends were the worst experience ever. What was worse, in my opinion, was damage done to my hair by the hands of someone else. I’ve had three incidents where that has happened. My friend burned me while flat ironing my hair (that was the last time I flat ironed my hair). My mom cut off a nice chunk of my hair while trying to take a sew-in out, and a hair braider did my kinky twists too tight, resulting in super thin new growth, especially at the edges I was originally trying to grow back in the first place! From now on, I’m doing my own protective styling.

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Teresa, glad to see you embracing your natural hair at such a young age. I wish I had done the same! You look fab!!

Before BC

Transition Time:My name is Teresa and I’m 19. I transitioned the first time in April of 2010, and I had maybe 6 inches of hair it grew to be chin lengthened when straight, and I got a perm(sorry) in May. I then transitioned for like two months and I missed my natural hair so much that I decided to BC, and cut it even all over the July 31, 2010.

My favorite products: Water, because my hair is really wavy/curly so I don’t need much. I like the IC gel a lot, and I really wanna try Mixed Chicks.

What I love most about my hair: What I love most is being natural. I like that I’m seeing my true hair. I am a very eccentric person and I just feel that curly hair is really the perfect style for me.

The manner in which you BC’d: I just got my dad to get the clippers out and cut all of the perm out of my hair. My hair grows really quick when it’s natural so I wasn’t worried about having a short hair cut.

Any opposition/problems you faced along the way: No, I’m one of those type who really doesn’t care what people think. If I wanted to be bald tomorrow nobody could stop me.

I really like to see people accept their natural hair. It doesn’t matter if your parents, or your significant other doesn’t like it, ultimately it is up to you. As a teen its hard for people to accept my hair, but my boyfriend loves it (lucky me), and if you can have the confidence to rock everybody will love, and if not who cares lol.

After BC

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A few days ago, I posted about this cool new phone app called GoNappturale. Well, one of the creators, Danesha, agreed to be interviewed for Newly Natural! Let’s find out more about the mind behind one of the few phone applications out there that cater to African American women!

The Lady

Kcurly: How long have you been natural?

Danesha: I have been natural for 6 months. I didn’t get a relaxer until I joined the military, which was around age 19. I am from California and I had always gotten my hair pressed..right into adulthood. When I was stationed in VA I went to get a press and the stylist pulled out a flat iron. I was like “What in the world are you going to do with that?” She told me they didn’t press hair in VA. She would flat iron it and try to get it as straight as she could.

Pressed hair in a chinese bob during high school graduation

I already knew that was not going to work and because I lived in barracks there was no way that I would be able to use the pressing comb that I had. So the following week after walking around with a huge mushroom, I let her relax it. I hated my hair after that. My hair had always been shiny, bouncy, and seemed like the relaxer had stripped all of that away and then to add insult to injury I started slowly watching my hair break off, which was devastating. This was hair I had grown for close to 20 years.

Kcurly: What is your regimen at this time?

Danesha: I co-wash only. Its funny, I have always Co-washed because shampoos were always to harsh on my hair. I clarify my hair with vinegar to remove residue. I use a coconut oil or minute amount of shea butter as a leave in.

"Accidental" asymmetrical bob due to breakage

Kcurly: Do you ever face any opposition to your natural hair? If so, how do you handle it?

Danesha: Hmmm not sure if I have faced anything blatant. I honestly don’t pay attention to what others feel when it comes to my appearance. As long as I am comfy thats all that matters. That is something that was ingrained as a child, succumbing to peer pressure was never an option. My mother has always told us, “Peer pressure is non-existent, you did it because you wanted to”. So I have always kept that in the back of my mind. I do it, because I want to.

Kcurly: What do you love most about your hair?

Danesha: The thing I love most about my hair is being free. No more sleeping with a crook in my neck to preserve a hairstyle.

Natural hair-micros "I have been wearing braids to protect my hair, and during the summer because me and my daughter love the pool"

Kcurly: What has been the hardest part of being natural?

Danesha: Its actually been really easy for me. One day, I was just over it. Went to my moms house and I let her take clippers to my head and just shaved it all off. I think my daughter was more in shock than anybody. LoL She cried because she thought that I looked like a boy. I explained to her that “mommy wants healthy long hair like you” and that made her feel batter. She immediately asked if we were going to be twins and I told her yes.

Kcurly: Do you have any advice for the newly natural ladies out there?

Danesha: Do it when you’re absolutely ready, that way it will not matter what anybody says to convince you otherwise. I feel like this, should you decide to go natural, hair is like that man that you are finally fed up with and you are just SO done and he can do all of the begging and pleading that he wants but nothing is going to change your mind…thats how it should be. When you are beyond the point of feeling bad about making a decision thats right for you, thats when you need to take that step. If you do it before, you will question your decision and might be convinced to back peddle. You have to be strong willed in order to go against the grain of societies idea of beauty.

The “Bidness”

Kcurly: So, you’re an African American female developer. I know that can be rare  in some places. How did you get started in this field?

Danesha: As I mentioned earlier I was in the military, the navy to be exact and about a year before getting out I enrolled in school in a C.I.S (Computer and Information Science) program and have been going ever since. Even at that time, I was the only African-american female in all of my classes. I loved technology and the endless opportunity. I have always loved math and science, so technology was a natural progression for me.

Kcurly: What, if any, other apps have you developed besides GoNappturale?

Danesha: We currently have 3 apps in the making. With another geared towards the ladies but also the gentlemen. We have an entertainment site coming out as well, that I think people will love. I cant give too much away because we have NDA’s floating around and we are still in development. All of these products will be out before the end of the year. I will keep everyone informed via twitter ((@matriarcmedia)) and my website www.matriarcmedia.com. As we update products we will add them to the site display. I will continue to create resources that compliment our lives and make our day to day, more convenient.

Kcurly: What prompted you to start developing apps for African American women?

Danesha: Wow, it just seems like when it comes to the Tech industry we aren’t well represented. Just perusing the app stores and products in general it was weird to see how other demos are targeted with black women not being one of their main focuses. We spend money and a lot of it and they need to earn our dollar just as they work hard for anyone else’s.

Maybe they don’t know how to do it, but I think its more about not wanting to put the effort in. They want a guaranteed formula for how to capture the interest of the woman of color, well its not that easy, you have to pay attention and take notes. We are dynamic, changing everyday. I know this and I am a black woman, so I looked at the products that I wanted to see and I asked girlfriends and relatives. We want what everybody else wants: convenience, reliability and quality. I feel as women, regardless of ethnicity, there are things that we like and enjoy. As women of color, you can take it a step further. Culturally, there are things that we gravitate towards and beauty (more specifically our hair) is one of them. So it was a no brainer for me that GoNappturale would be the first app to drop.

Kcurly: What has been the response to GoNapptural?

Danesha: The response has been overwhelming, but thats a good thing. I think this is something that we need. We need products made for us, by us. I have even had non African-american websites review the app and I think that is great! The larger the response the better because it allows us to keep creating. When it comes to technology you can get with it or get left behind. Its constantly changing and improving and we need to stay ahead of the curve.

Kcurly: Are there any upgrades or changes you have planned for GoNappturale?

Danesha: Yes, yes and yes! One of the main components of putting out a product or service is that you will receive reviews and suggestions to make the product better. The one consensus was a rating system. Customer service is imperative to guarantee the success of a business and reviews bring in new business and help it flourish while allowing the customer to make an educated and informed decision on whether or not to spend their money there. It is extremely important to give women these tools. It will weed out those not providing quality service.

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Candice, I loved reading this. I loved the complete turn around and how you are embracing your hair. It’s easy to say “love your hair as it is” but a lot harder to actually do it. I’m glad you have so much support. Your fro is adorable and so are you! (Emphasis per Kcurly)

Sew In

Hmmmm… where do I start? I guess I should start off by saying that I never was quite into the the whole natural thing. I didn’t think the look fit me, I know I didn’t have the patience (and still don’t, although I am working on it) to do my hair, and I didn’t really have problems with relaxers or weaves so I didn’t feel the need for a change.

I didn’t start getting a relaxer until I was about 10 years old. I had beautiful thick hair as a child, but I guess I didn’t appreciate that. I was tired of wearing ponytails and I wanted my hair long and straight like the other girls so I convinced my mother to put a relaxer in my hair. When I first got the relaxer I started doing my own hair and putting it into one ponytail in the back and breaking my sides. I was damaging my hair, but I was too young to realize the ultimate effects. My mother hated to see my hair going bad after spending many years keeping it healthy, so then I started wearing braids and cornrows and such. Once I felt that my hair was healthy again after wearing braids I would turn back to the relaxer and turn right around and break my hair again. It was a vicious cycle of continually damaging and re-strengthening my hair for several years.

Then I turned to weaves. During my first year of college I kept my hair in braids because I knew being away from home would definitely cause me to make my hair worse since I wasn’t familiar with any stylists in the area where I went to school. My second year I got a little bit more comfortable and wore my hair out relaxed and guess what happened… Not surprisingly, I damaged my hair again!!! That’s when I just started wearing sew-ins. That way I didn’t have to do anything with my hair and I could have it any style I wanted, pretty much. After I started getting sew-ins, I stopped getting relaxers.

Because I wasn’t going natural on purpose, I’m not completely sure of the exact date I stopped getting relaxers. I know it was somewhere between May and July of 2008. I rocked sew-ins like it was nobody’s business and I didn’t see the need to relax my hair if I wasn’t going to wear it out.

My friends have tried to convince me to wear my hair natural and be liberated, I just wasn’t falling for it lol. I loved my sew-ins and no one could tell me anything different. Over the course of my last year in college I started contemplating going natural more and more, but I wasn’t thoroughly convinced and happy with the idea and I felt that you had to be 100% sure that going natural was something you wanted to do. A lot of things kind of swayed me from going natural: I felt that I didn’t have the face structure to rock an afro or a short ‘do (I felt my face was too fat and my forehead was too huge lol). I also felt that my hair was too nappy and coarse to go natural and it was going to be unmanageable. I always joked that my hair was like someone straight from Africa and I always referred to Oprah Winfrey and Whoopi Goldberg’s hair in the Color Purple to describe my hair. And then I just felt that I wasn’t pretty enough to wear my hair natural.

I know, I know all that sounds absolutely asinine, but that’s honestly how I felt. Well, I just completed my studies at Florida State University and now I’m preparing for grad school. This is a huge step in my life and I’m excited. So I made up my mind today, why not wear my own hair. Of course, not being able to really afford getting another sew-in kind of pushed me over the edge as well lol. But in all seriousness, I lot of the reasons that I didn’t want to go natural was I didn’t know how people were going to perceive me and what they were going to think. I have always had a problem with what people thought of me, but now I definitely have to get over that and be completely happy with who I am and not care what they think. I’ve hidden my beautiful natural hair under weaves for too long now. My relaxed hair was completely cut off in December of 2009. It wasn’t exactly a BC because I had grown most of the  relaxer out between July 2008 until then. So I have a lot of natural hair to experiment with and play with and I’m excited to see the results of what I do.

Right after sew-in...Natural!!

I’m happy. I don’t care too much what others will think. I have a loving boyfriend who is excited to see the change, I have friends and family who have taken me as who I am so I know a hairstyle won’t change their minds about me, and tons of friends who are natural who are dying for me to join them. This will be a process, I will admit. I know it won’t be easy, but going through life and even completing undergraduate work in college, I have definitely learned that lesson.

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Jennifer, thank you so much for this. I think it’s important to note that you can be natural for years and still have those childhood and media ideals in your head. These ideals can make us self conscious for a long time. Kudos to you for continuing to learn and love your hair!

See more of Jennifer and her beautiful tresses at her blog:  http://beingpurposeful.wordpress.com


My last perm was in 2001.

But only recently have I learned how to properly take care of my hair, and worn it in its full bushy glory on a weekly basis. I have learned conditioner is my BFF, and that I can not leave my hair in twists or braids for months at a time (or out for more than a few days) without the consequences of dealing with loc-ed pieces all over. I have learned that my hair does fall out (because its suppose to), but I have a gazillion hairs on my head so I should not panic when I seen those gold curlicue pieces on the floor. I have learned that my hair doesn’t have the ability to lay flat on my hair in any style I have, and I look good with poofy hair.

All in all, it’s been a challenge to love my natural curly hair, and I think I am succeeding.

Attitudes I’ve had about my hair stem from what is common in society and what is common in my family. Women wearing natural hair styles are few in any location in the US; Bushes, afros, puffs, large ‘Celie’ braids, and twists are not seen as frequently as weaves, extensions, or just permed straightened hair. Finding a salon which does not bulk at the texture of my hair OR expect me to ask for a perm are few and far between. I go to one salon in my area when I have some extra income, but primarily I do it myself.

I only know 1 family member beside myself who wears her hair natural in public, and the rest have perms, wigs, or weaves. Growing up I did not have any role models for my keeping my hair natural or any real guidance on how to take care of my permed hair. My mom gave me a relaxer when I was 7 years old, and since then I felt like I had a perpetual bad hair day. I never could maintain my hair and I just put it into ponytails or wore it in braids. I had split ends all the time, and my hair never really grew beyond shoulder length. My hair is dense, which always posed a problem for styling my permed hair because it never laid flat, no matter what I did, permed, wore a scarf, some flat ironing here and there…it always turned into puffed-up mass on my head. So that proper laying down hairstyle with some curly ends was always a little out of reach for me.

Even after I stopped perming, I continued to just wear my hair in braids , because it was easy, cheap and low maintenance, but in retrospect my hair was ok, but not ‘healthy.’

I continued that practice until a few years ago after researching how to take care of natural hair, after a desire to experiment more with my hair. So now I mix between French braids, twists, and an afro – twists being my dominate style. I’ve avoiding getting braids now because my hair is longer (and I swear thicker) and the small braids I use to wear would take at least 2 days and require a lot of upper arm strength. I don’t do small twists anymore either unless I get them done at the salon.

For me, as a super self-conscious individuals, I am still not accustomed to compliments or stares as I walk through the city with a bush or large twists. People who walk past me and start laughing are the enemies of my self-esteem – and I constantly have to adjust my thinking, because 99% of the time they are NOT laughing at me. I have to say a mantra to myself that “I am not my hair, but my hair is my choice and a reflector of who I am, where I come from, and where I am going.”

It’s a journey that I am still taking.

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Congrats to Kim on her BC! You can check out more of her at her blog, dedicated to locs (Kim’s future goal), at http://irocklocs.blogspot.com. If you’re into locs, as I am, you’re in for a treat! Kim, you look GAWJESS!!

Relaxed

Transition time - I only went three months without a relaxer before I got tired of dealing with two textures and ready to take the leap!

Favorite products - I don’t know that I have favorites yet because I just just BC’d on Friday (Jun11), but I’m currently using Organics Uplifting Shampoo & Hair Mayonnaise. I’m also using a shea butter mixture a friend gave me as a “Welcome to the Natural Side!” gift. I’m pretty frugal and plan to use what’s in my house before I venture out, but I am researching and surfing blogs to find the right products.

What you love most about your hair – I love the feel of my kinky curlies! I can’t stop touching my hair!

The manner in which you BC’d - I went to a barber and he just took the clippers with a long guard and started cutting!

Newly Natural!

Any opposition/problems you faced along the way – My husband is not the most excited about the cut, but it’s growing on him. Since I’m a school teacher, I haven’t been back to work yet, so I don’t know what the reaction will be there.

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Newly Natural Gabrielle!

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Gabrielle, thanks for sharing your journey! I think a lot of black women feel the same way: that perming our hair is just something we do, that it’s a given. I’m glad you had, for the most part, good support. You are beautiful and your natural hair only magnifies that by 100! (Bolded areas per [...]

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Newly Natural Sahara

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Congrats Sahara, I am really diggin your newly natural hair! Way to ignore the “haters” and naysayers! And extra props for keeping it simple! (Bolded areas per Kcurly) Transition Time I randomly decided to go natural one day before doing research.  I started getting braids because I was tired of relaxing my hair.  Although it [...]

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Newly Natural Reva!

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Reva, I love your newly BC’d hair! You are so right, it is a powerful and an unforgettable experience! Enjoy your gorgeous hair and congrats! Hey KCurly, My name is Reva and I am from the Bahamas. I recently BC’d on June 7th, 2010. It was such a powerful experience! My last relaxer was on [...]

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Newly Natural LaTia -Update!

June 24, 2010

You can see LaTia’s story here. Congrats to being on the grow, girl! Thanks for the update, I love ‘em! Hey KCurly! Its LaTia again I was a newly natural a couple months ago. I’m writing because I did a semi length check & my growth is amazing!!! I’m so excited. My hair never grew [...]

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Newly Natural Eboni

June 11, 2010

Eboni! I’m so glad that you didn’t listen to all of the naysayers who were trying to discourage you from going natural. I know they are eating their words now. You are a beautiful young lady and your hair is on fire!! Congrats on your 3 months being natural and may you have many years [...]

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Newly Natural Tina!

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Tina, girl, you are rockin your natural hair! It really gives you such a glow and radiance compared to your relaxed picture (even though you and hubby are so cute together!) And I love that picture of you and your sister…such a beautiful pair of natural ladies! Congrats to you and thanks for sharing with [...]

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Newly Natural Lauren!

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Lauren, I so enjoyed reading your story. Your experience is a lesson in how harsh these chemicals can be to our scalps and skin. Thank for your sharing your story as well as the lovely pictures of your fro! Congrats on being natural! My name is Lauren West and I just did my BC on [...]

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Newly Natural LaTia!

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LaTia! Congrats on your BC, you look wonderful! I am loving those coils, they look professional! Your hair is beautiful and so are you! Congrats again! Hey Kcurly!! I am LaTia & I just BC’d March 6, 2010!! It has been pretty interesting thus far I must say but I am in LOVE with my [...]

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Newly Natural Sabrina!

May 4, 2010

Sabrina, girl, you look so beautiful and confident! Congrats on your TWA and thanks for sharing your story! Transition time: Approximately  7 weeks (My last relaxer was at the end of February. Your favorite products: I don’t have a fave, but my stylist (she is natural and does both relaxed and natural hair) uses NuExpressions [...]

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