From the category archives:

Wash N Gos

Here’s the rundown.

Hair

Yes, hair is first. I mean, let’s keep our priorities straight, shall we? ;)

For months I’ve been doing the same old, same old. Twists, twist out, wash, rinse, repeat. And, as ya’ll know, I have no problem being in a “rut”.

The last time I did twists, they lasted an incredibly long time. They were in for roughly 5 weeks. In that amount of time, I washed them twice (once after swimming). I mostly wore them up in a bun or some kind of updo.I loved my twists and was very happy that they lasted so long without getting too fuzzy.

 

Then, insanity struck: I did a blow out and flat iron job in the dead of summer. I thought it would be cool as long as I left my hair in a bun during high humidity (which is pretty much all the time down here).

I have no pictures because right after I did my hair, I was unexpectedly splashed with a ton of water by a 5 year old.

After I felt that water on my scalp, I had a surreal moment of disbelief. There was no way I’d just spent 5 hours on my hair only to have it washed away in a few seconds.Although I’d read stories online about things like this happening, they rarely happen to me.

But it did. In addition to that, it started raining cats and dogs.

In my frustration, I did what I’d been wanting to do for a long time: refrained from cussing out the 5 year old, washed my hair, combed it out and rocked a puff.

These pictures are of my puff the morning I wore it to work. It was raining like crazy so I had on my raincoat but of course my puff wouldn’t fit under the hood. Haha.

Who cares though, right? That rain only made my puff look better. I’ve been moisturizing with a spritz, tying down my edges at night, and going about my business. I’m not thinking about single strand knots, I’m not thinking about tangles. I’m not even thinking about curl definition. I’m just enjoying.my.puff!

Family Stuff

I don’t know if I’ve ever mentioned it here, but I started homeschooling my 5 year old son. It was a big decision on my part and something I sometimes doubted I could do, but in the end I feel it’s the right decision. With the help of a local homeschooling group and some supportive friends, it’s been going smoothly thus far. And no, we are not wearing long skirts and churning butter. I don’t think most homeschoolers fit the preconceived notions that society has of them.

In other family news, I had an unexpected (but welcome) pregnancy in May that ended in miscarriage about a month later. After having had a miscarriage before my son was conceived, it never occurred to me that I’d have another one. How arrogant we humans can be.

I’ve known some women who weren’t very affected by miscarriage but both times have been pretty depressing for me.  This last time was not quite  as bad, more than likely because I had my children to keep my mind occupied.

Hurricane Isaac

Thankfully, I do not live in a coastal city but we are often affected by hurricanes in my area.  During Katrina, we lost power for 5 days and had several causalities in the area. I also have a lot of relatives further south. I am humbly asking for prayers and thoughts during this time, though I’m sure we will be fine.

As I’ve been sitting typing this post, the wind has gone from nonexistent to strong, intermittent bursts. So I guess Isaac is about to pay a visit!

 In conclusion

Thanks for reading this long ramble and, as always, thanks for reading :) Now back to hurrrrrrr…!

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I admit it: I just haven’t been big on the curl definition thing lately. Which is funny because that is all my little brain could focus on when I first went natural. I suppose it’s just another stage in my mental transition .

There is nothing wrong with wanting to define your curls. I just felt the need to step away from it for awhile. Not only does it increase knots and tangles for me, but it also would feel as if I were trying to make my hair do something that it didn’t want to do. I’m a big believer that one will become the most frustrated with natural hair when you try to make it behave in a way that is contrary to its nature: ie straightening.

Some people can straighten and curl define and whatever else and it’s all good. My hair is very resistant to being straight and it takes a TON of product to have my curls clump. To me, it’s just not worth the effort and the frustration except for every once in a while.

So what sparked this recent bout of curl defining? I was looking through my product stash a few days ago and noticed all these curl defining products just hanging out on my shoe tree totally unused. I decided to go ahead and give it a go even though there are several reasons I hate defining curls:

  • It takes an incredibly long time to dry. It has been over 24 hours since I applied my product and a small section near my scalp in the back of my head is still damp. Using a diffuser probably would’ve helped, but having just flat ironed my hair I really want to stay away from heat for awhile. And it still takes forever and a day to dry with a mechanical dryer.
  • It takes a lot of time to apply the product properly. Granted, it didn’t take as long doing twists, but it still is not just putting on some moisturizer and heading out the door.
  • I hate the wet hair on my neck. Nothing annoys me more! Eventually it shrinks up and it’s not on my neck as much.
  • The style does not last as long as twists, braids, etc.
  • My hair always decides to be a diva when I do this. Can’t touch it or it frizzes. Can’t let the wind blow it or it frizzes. Can’t leave in any conditioner or I have white flakes.
  • Increased possibility of knots and tangles. Nuff said.

Here’s what I did:

  1. Deep conditioned with Lustrasilk Shea Butter Plus /detangled in several big sections
  2. Rinsed out conditioner with cold water while still in sections
  3. Applied leave in conditioner (Enso’s Naturals, reviewing incoming), followed by squeezing in liberal amounts of KCCC.
  4. I then used the Denman Brush on each section.
  5. Wrapped hair gently in several T-shirts for about 1/2 an hour
  6. Airdried with touching, playing with, or looking sideways at my hair.

I’ve said often that I have different hair types/patterns on my head, as do most people. It’s a lot more obvious when I do a wash n go the difference in the front and the back.

Having said all the things that I said about hating styling my hair like this, I have to admit that I like it. I will probably be cursing it when I find those single strand knots and when I have to redo it in a few days, but for now I’m enjoying it.

To those ladies who applied for the guest product reviewer spot: I am still reading all the wonderful reviews! There were a lot more entrants than I thought there would be so I’m taking my time to pick the top three.

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Email from Chana:

Hi Kcurly,

I have been natural for about a year now, and I wear a wash and go everyday, b/c I have no clue how to do anything else, and I love my curl pattern so I’m scared I will disturb it.  I know it probably sounds crazy, but I’m new to this.  My regimen includes co-washing with Tresemme Naturals avocado conditioner, leave in is Oyin honey hemp, moisturizer Ohm sweet hair pudding, and styler KCCC.  I was using Afroveda, but I saw the price hike, and I won’t be purchasing anytime soon!  I am finishing my first year of nursing school, and being natural is great, but I feel like I’m not doing enough for my hair? I have attached some pics ( i did not put anything on my hair today, and it has not been washed in 2wks :( ), I would greatly appreciate any suggestions…Thanks sooooooooooo much!

Chana

Chana!

Your hair is beautiful girl. Love the color too :)

Questions for you: Does your hair feel healthy to you? Are you happy with it? Does wearing wash n go’s  fit into your lifestyle?

If the answer to all of these is “yes” then I wouldn’t change a thing. You are in nursing school, also known (officially) as the depths of Hell. Whatever is easiest for you is what I would stick to (unless you’re looking for a change).

As for damaging your curl pattern, the only things that are likely to do that are chemicals and heat damage. As your hair gets longer sometimes the pattern changes because of the weight of the hair. Styles such as twists, braids, twist outs, etc are not going to change your pattern.

If wash n go’s are what your hair likes, it’s thriving, and you like wearing them, then I say stick with them. I personally can not do a lot of wash n go’s because I experience knots and dryness but everyone is different. You seem to have a solid routine that works for you. If you want to change things up without trying a different style, you can always sport some new hair accessories. If you’d like to try some new styles, the only thing I can suggest is to pick a style, view a tutorial and  get to practicing!  :)

Email from Lucy:

Hello Kcurly,

I just stumbled on your blog today whilst researching what to do now I’ve done the big chop. to read about it pls click here: http://theprincesspoetslifeadventures.blogspot.com/2010/12/i-actually-did-it-my-big-chop.html

I love your blog! I researched and everything but I still feel like I haven’t gotten a hang of a regime. I know to give myself time as I only bc on Sunday! But going to work everyday especially here in the UK with our stupid Wintery weather, I don’t think it is smart to wash & go everyday but I don’t know what to do to revive me mashed up hair. Do you think spritzing it with water or a leave-in will help?

I also wanted to ask about your life as a SAHM, I’m intending on staying home when my lil bean is born & would like some advice/tips on motherhood in general?

Thank you so much,

Lucy aka princesspoet!

Heya Lucy. Congrats on your BC!

I hate having a wet head in the winter too, so I can’t blame you for not wanting to do wash n go’s everyday. A spritz or leave in is definitely an option. It’s something you may have to play around with. I find that applying your product, scrunching it in very well, and then shaking the hair out helps to refresh the hair.

However I’d probably go for a protective style. I don’t know how much hair you will have, but some fingercoils or twists would eliminate the need for frequent washing.

As for the mothering thing, it’s something I’m still really learning. I will tell you this: Two is a lot different than one! You will have a lot of people telling you how to raise your child, but remember that the only “right” way is the way that you feel in your heart is right. I do listen to advice, research the subject, and then make my decisions.  I breastfeed, I cloth diaper, I more than likely will homeschool, so I know about getting flack for parenting styles.

My general pieces of advice are to get as much rest as you can, try to get some “me” time in, try not to go crazy, try not to kill the baby’s father…and love every minute of it :)

Email from Sandra:

Hi Kcurly,

I went to the hairdresser last night for the big chop and she said no.  That she thought I would not like it.  So here I am today searching for more reinforcement.  I believe I am ready.  I have about 2 inches of new growth but just wanted it shaved down.  She was like my edges are extremely thin and it would not be a good look.  What do you think?  Please give me your opinion.  I was thinking once I get down to the hair on my scalp I could see and take care of my edges and scalp better.

I am ready but she made me feel like I would look crazy.

Sandra

She said no??! I’m really stumped over why these stylists are refusing to do a service that they are paid to perform. I suppose some of them feel that a drastic cut will devastate the client and they would rather not deal with a potential problem. Oh well…

Onto your question…I don’t tell people to chop, but if it were me, I would BC. Your edges are going to be thin either way. (By the way, are your edges really that thin or was this just her excuse?) I suppose she means that the advantage of not chopping would be that you could hide your edges with the rest of your hair? That is true, but if I were feeling that self conscious about thin edges, I’d get a few silk or satin scarves to rock while my edges grew in. Or I would just rock it and tell anyone who made a comment they could go kick rocks :)

It’s not really important what I (or the stylist) thinks though, it’s all about you. Please let me know what you decide :)

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